Have you ever heard the horror stories of large iPads being in people’s wedding pictures because Aunt Marge pulled one out right before the kiss?
In this digital age, you’ll be hard-pressed to attend a wedding where nobody has their phones. People love taking pictures, and I love that! Phones provide instantaneous gratification and allows people to share their joy on the same day as the wedding.
However, this gets tricky when it becomes all about the pictures. I always tell brides, “Your wedding is not a photoshoot. Weddings are not about the photographs. I want your wedding day to feel like a day that you’ll experience and remember, not a photoshoot with a rigid schedule. I purposefully build breathing room into all my wedding timelines so that you have time to enjoy the day!”
So in order to get your family on board with having an unplugged ceremony, here are three reasons to commit:
1. Everyone is all-in
All eyes are locked in and focused on the purpose of the ceremony: making a covenant to each other. No phones are distracting people from the momentous service. Your guests get to fully participate, enjoy and interact for the 30 minute ceremony. It’s totally doable!
2. You don’t get phones or iPads in your pictures
As a photographer, this is one of the most nerve-wracking moments of a wedding day! Will the bride’s relative pull out an iPad? Will Dad insist on taking an iPhone picture? Will something get in the way of “the shot”? Be kind to your photographer and relieve this pressure by asking your guests to leave their phones in pockets.
3. Your photographer is contracted as the sole photographer
Legally, if your photographer has a solid contract, they were contracted to be the sole photographer for the day. Guests who bring DSLR cameras or work their iPhone magic are technically breaching the contract.
I believe having an unplugged ceremony frees people to enjoy more, focus on the important moments and spend intentional time with other guests. Don’t worry about how to say it either — simply put up a cute sign with this message:
“We invite you to be fully present with us during our ceremony. Kindly turn off all cell phones and cameras. We promise to share with you all the beautiful images captured here today!”